Sunday, April 17, 2005

Marriage Chapter

Nathan Curry wrote:
Having lived now for a while in Asia - I am not too impressed with the
marital process - particularly in places like India and Pakistan....

Have your family gone out and found suitable husbands for you?

Do you get to choose? And if so what sort of choices are acceptable to your
family?

Is this what you mean by me being very lucky and free -whereas you do not
feel that way at all....


From Sarah Hasan:

I guess everything is everywhere, all I can say is that in majority cases it(marriage tradition) wont change that is how it was 100's of yours ago.....and will stay for 100's more...for many people.
Discussing 1% or even less is a waste of time.
Marriage in it self, very rarely has its roots in love...how many Romeo and Juliet and in the subcontinent Laila and Majnu cases do u know of??

I GUESS THAT YOU WILL BE IN INDIA FOR A LONG TIME SO DO YOUR OWN RESEARCH,
> >THIS PROCESS (of marriage) WILL STAY THERE FOREVER.......IMPRESSED OR NOT
> >IMPRESSED MEANS NOTHING TO THOSE WHO ARE PART OF THAT CULTURE.

Response:

- I found your response about marriage in the subcontinent cultures
very fatalistic. I know of people who have broken out of the shackles of the
awful system as it is (generally it seems to be a very controlling and
business like advantage - which has clear advantages - but also woeful
conseqeunces) and made a life that somehow pleased them and their family.
But sadly that is limited to people whose parents are 1. dead or 2. very
open minded and liberal.